Showing posts with label Children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Children. Show all posts
Sunday, June 17, 2012
Where is The White Picket Fence?
Tuesday, March 02, 2010
Divorce and Family Dynamics
(Our family at Jess and Casey's Christmas time)
So once upon a time I went through a divorce that reshaped my life. Not a divorce by choice, definately not wanting to tear my kids apart between parents. And so it went, since we couldn't stay together we became a split family. This seemed very difficult at first. I had to share my kids with another mom and give them up on weekends and on certain holidays. But one day it seemed okay, they had twice as much love, twice as much celebrating and all seemed well. Their father and step-mom and I all got along, after the hurt went away. I met their step-father and we all bonded. Wow, weren't we all mature? We then added to our families. The kids got new half-brothers on both sides. They loved and cared for them. It was so sweet!
Now...I find out one child was unhappy cause they was seperated from their school friends during the weekends away @ dads and didn't have many friends. Also maybe the kids felt replaced by the new siblings? They didn't get to live with both parents like their new siblings did. They felt resentment toward a step parent for trying to discipline and many times there was no room for error on the step-parents part.
Then came holidays...suddenly too many places to go as each child moved out on their own. And the child left at home was an only sibling, or so it felt. This is where I related. Even without divorce in my family, I basically grew up alone. My parents overcompensated with me because of that so I was spoiled? My siblings were close with one another, but I felt out of the loop. The age difference put us on different paths.
I want for my children to all be close. If anything were to happen to me, I'd want them to visit their step-dad and call & hang out with their brother. I feel so disfunctional. I know that no family is perfect. I know that there are worse family dynamics. I am thankful for my family. For their health and welfare. I am proud of each one of them independantly. I just don't know how to bring us all together like a real family? We have our family dinners, as it fits into everyones schedule, if it does. Once all the other parents and grandparents devy up the offspring we occassionally get to all come together. No Waltons here, it's a different world for sure.
Now...I find out one child was unhappy cause they was seperated from their school friends during the weekends away @ dads and didn't have many friends. Also maybe the kids felt replaced by the new siblings? They didn't get to live with both parents like their new siblings did. They felt resentment toward a step parent for trying to discipline and many times there was no room for error on the step-parents part.
Then came holidays...suddenly too many places to go as each child moved out on their own. And the child left at home was an only sibling, or so it felt. This is where I related. Even without divorce in my family, I basically grew up alone. My parents overcompensated with me because of that so I was spoiled? My siblings were close with one another, but I felt out of the loop. The age difference put us on different paths.
I want for my children to all be close. If anything were to happen to me, I'd want them to visit their step-dad and call & hang out with their brother. I feel so disfunctional. I know that no family is perfect. I know that there are worse family dynamics. I am thankful for my family. For their health and welfare. I am proud of each one of them independantly. I just don't know how to bring us all together like a real family? We have our family dinners, as it fits into everyones schedule, if it does. Once all the other parents and grandparents devy up the offspring we occassionally get to all come together. No Waltons here, it's a different world for sure.
Thursday, March 01, 2007
God's Tools
"Children should have little Craftsman labels on them 'cause they are God's tools."-Roger
Camdyn 4 1/2 months
Great-great grandma Edna with Camdyn. February 19, 2007
As Roger said God uses our children. We want to be better examples. When we had Erik Roger asked me to pray and thank God for him. Even though we weren't Christians at the time we knew this little blessing came from God. Then we decided we wanted to raise our kids in church. So we sought a church. God used the kids to draw us to Him. In this world of confussion, disbelief in anything, our children should be our inspiration for greater things. Satan would have us regress but God wants us to progress. We learn to be less selfish as parents if we want what is best for our children. As with everything it is a process of living and learning. As our friend says "God should have made us grandparents before parents." If only I knew then what I know now.
Sunday, July 09, 2006
"Remember now your creator in the days of your youth. before the difficult days come and the years draw near when you say, "I have no pleasure in them." Ecclesiastics 12:2
My prayer for my children is that they will someday see the greater picture. Youth often live life for the moment. They feel indestructable. They feel their whole lifes are ahead of them and they need to have as much fun as possible. I love to see my kids enjoy life in good, healthy ways. I just pray for their protection against the powers and principalities of darkness. I whole heartedly believe there are evil influences trying to rob us of our souls. The Bible says "We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Ephesians 6 :12. "For the theif cometh but for to steal, and to kill and to destroy...." John 10:10. I think these evil influences come in many forms, in some music, in the media, in drugs, in cults and occults such as Wicca, even sometimes churches. There are churches that appear to tell a form of the truth but in reality tell a lie. These churches believe that we make our own truth, or that we pick and chose what we believe of the Bible. This is a form of spiritual depravity that will steal one's soul. I told Kevin recently that there is such a bigger picture out there as to why I don't want him to go to "Ozz Fest" or not. I have my parental reasons to not let him go such as the drinking, the drugs, the mayhem but far greater is the spiritual influence of the music/musicians. No matter how great a musician is, if he promotes anger, violence, immortality his music is "worthless". The big picture is "What do I want Kevin to pattern his life after?" And it is not after a rock musician with bigger problems than one could imagine. I want him to be a man with a belief in not just "a greater power", but in the greater power. The one who sacrificed His life for us to "...have life and have it more abundantly." also John 10:10. I want my children to not find their own ways but to seek God's way. "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and he will direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:5&6
A friend of mine called today to tell me her son accepted Christ in his life. I am so happy for them. She said it is evident there is a change in his life. She says he just sounds happier. He is 22 and I'm sure he spent some of his life doing his own thing but God had a greater plan for him. I believe that God has a plan for each of my kids. He will not give up on them and neither do I. While Jess lived at home I tried my hardest to guide her. I am trying to do the same with Kevin. We are sometimes at odds. He does make his own choices but I am still trying to guide him. I am not afraid to say uncomfortable things to him if they might make him think of his actions. As adults we get to make our own decisions. I've certainly never wanted someone telling me how to live my life. At times I've even not wanted to listen to God's word and tried to ignore it. I've learn mostly from experience. Of course I don't want any of my kids struggling but sometimes that is how we learn our greatest lessons. It is hard to watch sometimes but I trust that God has a greater purpose. "And what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger", I've heard said. God accepts us and patiently waits for us to need Him.
I am happy that I have Erik, still young and tender hearted. The teenage years will rip your heart out and Erik has help me keep my sanity. Roger is a great support system too. Lately Erik and I have been getting up at 5am when Roger goes to work. We walk 2 miles, then read a devotion, have a prayer, then read a book together. We have lots of good talks on our walks and have gotten really close. I thank God that Erik has the opportunity to know God from a youth and I hope that Roger and I have grown as parents, at least in example.
My prayer for my children is that they will someday see the greater picture. Youth often live life for the moment. They feel indestructable. They feel their whole lifes are ahead of them and they need to have as much fun as possible. I love to see my kids enjoy life in good, healthy ways. I just pray for their protection against the powers and principalities of darkness. I whole heartedly believe there are evil influences trying to rob us of our souls. The Bible says "We wrestle not against flesh and blood but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Ephesians 6 :12. "For the theif cometh but for to steal, and to kill and to destroy...." John 10:10. I think these evil influences come in many forms, in some music, in the media, in drugs, in cults and occults such as Wicca, even sometimes churches. There are churches that appear to tell a form of the truth but in reality tell a lie. These churches believe that we make our own truth, or that we pick and chose what we believe of the Bible. This is a form of spiritual depravity that will steal one's soul. I told Kevin recently that there is such a bigger picture out there as to why I don't want him to go to "Ozz Fest" or not. I have my parental reasons to not let him go such as the drinking, the drugs, the mayhem but far greater is the spiritual influence of the music/musicians. No matter how great a musician is, if he promotes anger, violence, immortality his music is "worthless". The big picture is "What do I want Kevin to pattern his life after?" And it is not after a rock musician with bigger problems than one could imagine. I want him to be a man with a belief in not just "a greater power", but in the greater power. The one who sacrificed His life for us to "...have life and have it more abundantly." also John 10:10. I want my children to not find their own ways but to seek God's way. "Trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge Him and he will direct thy paths." Proverbs 3:5&6
A friend of mine called today to tell me her son accepted Christ in his life. I am so happy for them. She said it is evident there is a change in his life. She says he just sounds happier. He is 22 and I'm sure he spent some of his life doing his own thing but God had a greater plan for him. I believe that God has a plan for each of my kids. He will not give up on them and neither do I. While Jess lived at home I tried my hardest to guide her. I am trying to do the same with Kevin. We are sometimes at odds. He does make his own choices but I am still trying to guide him. I am not afraid to say uncomfortable things to him if they might make him think of his actions. As adults we get to make our own decisions. I've certainly never wanted someone telling me how to live my life. At times I've even not wanted to listen to God's word and tried to ignore it. I've learn mostly from experience. Of course I don't want any of my kids struggling but sometimes that is how we learn our greatest lessons. It is hard to watch sometimes but I trust that God has a greater purpose. "And what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger", I've heard said. God accepts us and patiently waits for us to need Him.
I am happy that I have Erik, still young and tender hearted. The teenage years will rip your heart out and Erik has help me keep my sanity. Roger is a great support system too. Lately Erik and I have been getting up at 5am when Roger goes to work. We walk 2 miles, then read a devotion, have a prayer, then read a book together. We have lots of good talks on our walks and have gotten really close. I thank God that Erik has the opportunity to know God from a youth and I hope that Roger and I have grown as parents, at least in example.
Sunday, March 05, 2006
Results From "Survey of the Opinionated"
I sent out "a survey for the opinionated" recently via e-mail. Thanks to a few of my friends and family I got some interesting answers to some controversial subjects. I want to compile those answers, trying to vary them. I don't necessarily agree or disagree but I found the diverse answers interesting. There were a few opinions that weren't elaborated on, probably cause they are touchy subjects, (eg. Being born gay and pro-choice). Following you will find some of the answers I received. *I will interject new opinions if I receive them. Or you may post a comment at the end. Thanks.
1. Would you consider yourself, Conservative or Liberal?
5 conservative and 2 liberal. 1 very conservative and only one who elaborated:
"Politics is not my thing, it is so messed up" -Nick
2. Do you believe in Creation or Evolution?
6 for creation, 1 for evolution and 2 who elaborated :
"Creation and micro "evolution." That means that I believe living beings can adapt over time based on changes to their environment. For example, people who work in freezers, like meat packers, develop an extra layer of fat under the skin of their hands which provides protection from constant exposure to cold. There are lots of other examples of small biological changes that occurs when our body becomes stressed and needs to change. I do not believe in macro "evolution: which is the jump of one species to another... One time I saw a picture in National Geographic of a gorilla wading in a stream. He was standing straight and up to his chest in water and I thought, "Woa, he really does look a lot like a man." Then I asked myself why God would create such a creature that had so many similarities to a human being? My theory is that God created all animals and brought them to Adam to show him,"Look, none of these animals, however similar, are a suitable companion for you because you are unique. They many look a little like you or act a little like you but they are not like you. Only the companion that I create will be the perfect match for you." I think God wanted Adam to realize that he was set apart in a special place in God's creation.- Pam
"I believe that all was created but some animals have evolved from their original form."-Christie 3. Do you believe in Censorship?
Here it appears that people are mixed.
2 No, 4 yes, 3 yes and no
Some elaborated:
"I believe in freedom of speech although when it comes to TV and such I think you need some conservative censorship to protect our youths from language, sex, etc."-Roger
"For adults not really, as for children somethings are not meant for them to hear or see."-Christie
"No... Censorship is a dangerous road because who determines what needs to be censored...You have to take the good with the bad and learn to discern truth from untruth."-Pam
4. Do you believe in Capital punishment?
4 yes, 2 no and 3 not sure
"No...My daughter asked me once if all the soldiers were going to go to hell for killing people. How do you say you can't kill people and then say, well only in these circumstances."-Pam
"Yes, if you kill (premeditated) you should die. God laid down guidelines for this back with the Israelites."-Roger *He also believes there is a difference in killing (as in war) and murder (as in premeditated)
5. The war in Iraq, good or bad?
3 good, 3 bad and 3 both
"All war is bad!! Not just Iraq...But I also believe in defending our country...Strongly..But we have war on the streets of America... Drug wars, political war, racist war, Christian war, etc. etc,... But, I love America and we need to do something to straighten out our country...What?? I wish I knew where to start."- Traci's aunt"Good!! Better on their soil than ours. I believe they left us no choice."- Christie
"Very good-Democracy in the region will stabilize it over time."-Tom
6. Love Dogs or Cats? This was to be a light hearted question in the mix of complicated ones!
I thought this would be a gender thing. But wasn't really.
6 love both, 1 prefers cats and 1 dogs, and 1 "No, just like them."-Tom
*"Dogs, Cats are evil."-Jess (she's allergic to cats!)
7. Life after death? Does heaven and hell exist?
This certainly wasn't a cut and dry answer.
Only 3 people believe in hell but most believe in an after life."Yes, I believe in life after death. I believe Hell does not exist but I do believe our spirits go somewhere, a type of Heaven maybe until we are ready for our next life."-Nikki"I believe the Bible. "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies: and whoever lives and believes in me will never die." John 11:25-26 Hell? Matthew 10:28"-Myself8. Who is God?
Most expressed belief in God as the creator. Others also said:"I believe there is more than one & they are Male & Female."-Nikki"...Mostly I think, for me, he's the still small voice that is constant and ever present that defines my life for me and brings stillness and peace."-Pam
"The Father, the Son, the Holy spirit, the creator and Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior."-Roger
9. Spanking our own children?
5 believe in spanking (not beating) 4 against spanking
"(Spanking not beating) only in extreme cases when nothing else will get a child's attention and they are headed for serious trouble."-Tom
"I think spanking confuses children. This is from my experience as a child and from what I've heard/seen from my own children. Discipline is good. I believe in consistency in discipline and finding each child's form of currency. "-Myself10. Teachers spanking our children?
3 yes, 4 no and 2 agree to the following:
"I think that since the discipline has been taken away from the teachers that the kids are more out of control and not as respectful.. I know that when I was in school and a teacher threatened to take you out in the hall for a smack, the class straighten right up though. I would be worried about whether the teacher and I would not see "eye to eye' on whether what the child did warranted a spanking.'-Traci
11. Are you a racist?
4 said no, others felt they were somewhat racist
"We all are to some degree, but that's no excuse to let it rule you."-Roger
"Only toward people who want special attention because of their race."-Christie
12. Pro-life, Pro-choice?
8 pro-life, 1 pro-choice
"Pro-life, yet again another tough one there can be so many variables here."-Nick
"Pro-life and pro-forgiveness, I am strongly opposed to abortion, but every woman who has made this choice and regretted it deserves forgiveness. "-Myself
*"Pro-life, it's not a choice that should be made by anyone other than God."-Jess
13. Sex-education at home, at school?
7 for both home and school, 2 for at home
"At home, but the reality is that sex is everywhere. Kids are going to be exposed."-Pam
"Sex ed class in high school I think would be OK but parents should start talking to their kids as soon as they know what sex is."-Traci
14. Dr. Phil, Love him, hate him, don't care?
I included this question 'cause I've come across some people that dislike him quite a bit.
4 liked him 1 hated him, 2 don't care and 2 never watched him
"He's okay when I agree with him."-Roger
"Like him most of the time although I do think that he is pretty full of himself most of the time. He does do a lot of good things for many people though."-Traci
15. Passing out condoms to teens?
2 said yes, 3 said no, 2 said this is up to parents, 1 unsure, 1 said don't care
"They started passing out condoms at school and the teen birth rate went up along with sexually transmitted disease. Passing out condoms is telling them, GO AHEAD...Parents are responsible for takin care of this...NOT the schools.."-Traci's aunt
"I'm for it, teens are going to have sex either way! This way they are less likely to spread disease and have unwanted pregnancies."-Christie
16. Prayer in School?
4 said yes, 2 said no, 3 said on a voluntary basis
"I believe that we should not take God out of the schools. This is America and if the ones that don't like it, they need to go back where they came from."-Traci
"I think prayer in school should be allowed on an optional basis. If my child went to school in another country and was forced to say prayer to an idol, I'd be disturbed. I can understand a non-believing parent feeling like that about Christian prayers. I don't think Christianity should be forced or hindered. It always has to be a free choice. That's the way God planned it."-Pam
17. Marriage between same sex?
2 yes, 7 no
"Marriage sure, if both people are in love, why not? But I don't think it is right for them to raise kids."-Christie
18. Born gay, become gay?
2 born gay, 7 become gay
"Gay is a personal choice."-Tom
"Are we born with a sexual preference? I would say no because our sexual desires don't come into play til we are adolescents. However many gay ppl would say it is not a choice. It would seem like we have no choice in who we love, so ppl who commit adultery could also say that it was not their choice, they just fell in love. So it's a sin issue and has to be dealt with between the person and God. Like all sins, forgiveness and deliverance is available to those who ask. 1 John 1:9"
19. Union, non-union?
3 union, 1 non-union, 2 neither, 1 both, and 2 unsure
"Non-union has done well for both my husband and my father."-Christie
"Both can be evil."-Nick
"Management will never change, always trying to get the most for the least. Unions will never be effective for the same reason. A person must make their capabilities valuable."-Tom
20. Absolute Truth, relativism?
4 for absolute truth, 4 for relativism, 1 other
"God's word is absolute truth. Nothing in this world (other than God's rules of nature) is black and white just various shades of gray."-Tom
"Absolute truth but who decides the truth? You or God?"-Roger
That concludes my survey. This was really time consuming! But I enjoyed it. I wonder, has anyone's opinion changed by hearing others? I know I was quite impressed upon by some answers. Thanks.
How about Gun control? Something to think about...
1. Would you consider yourself, Conservative or Liberal?
5 conservative and 2 liberal. 1 very conservative and only one who elaborated:
"Politics is not my thing, it is so messed up" -Nick
2. Do you believe in Creation or Evolution?
6 for creation, 1 for evolution and 2 who elaborated :
"Creation and micro "evolution." That means that I believe living beings can adapt over time based on changes to their environment. For example, people who work in freezers, like meat packers, develop an extra layer of fat under the skin of their hands which provides protection from constant exposure to cold. There are lots of other examples of small biological changes that occurs when our body becomes stressed and needs to change. I do not believe in macro "evolution: which is the jump of one species to another... One time I saw a picture in National Geographic of a gorilla wading in a stream. He was standing straight and up to his chest in water and I thought, "Woa, he really does look a lot like a man." Then I asked myself why God would create such a creature that had so many similarities to a human being? My theory is that God created all animals and brought them to Adam to show him,"Look, none of these animals, however similar, are a suitable companion for you because you are unique. They many look a little like you or act a little like you but they are not like you. Only the companion that I create will be the perfect match for you." I think God wanted Adam to realize that he was set apart in a special place in God's creation.- Pam
"I believe that all was created but some animals have evolved from their original form."-Christie 3. Do you believe in Censorship?
Here it appears that people are mixed.
2 No, 4 yes, 3 yes and no
Some elaborated:
"I believe in freedom of speech although when it comes to TV and such I think you need some conservative censorship to protect our youths from language, sex, etc."-Roger
"For adults not really, as for children somethings are not meant for them to hear or see."-Christie
"No... Censorship is a dangerous road because who determines what needs to be censored...You have to take the good with the bad and learn to discern truth from untruth."-Pam
4. Do you believe in Capital punishment?
4 yes, 2 no and 3 not sure
"No...My daughter asked me once if all the soldiers were going to go to hell for killing people. How do you say you can't kill people and then say, well only in these circumstances."-Pam
"Yes, if you kill (premeditated) you should die. God laid down guidelines for this back with the Israelites."-Roger *He also believes there is a difference in killing (as in war) and murder (as in premeditated)
5. The war in Iraq, good or bad?
3 good, 3 bad and 3 both
"All war is bad!! Not just Iraq...But I also believe in defending our country...Strongly..But we have war on the streets of America... Drug wars, political war, racist war, Christian war, etc. etc,... But, I love America and we need to do something to straighten out our country...What?? I wish I knew where to start."- Traci's aunt"Good!! Better on their soil than ours. I believe they left us no choice."- Christie
"Very good-Democracy in the region will stabilize it over time."-Tom
6. Love Dogs or Cats? This was to be a light hearted question in the mix of complicated ones!
I thought this would be a gender thing. But wasn't really.
6 love both, 1 prefers cats and 1 dogs, and 1 "No, just like them."-Tom
*"Dogs, Cats are evil."-Jess (she's allergic to cats!)
7. Life after death? Does heaven and hell exist?
This certainly wasn't a cut and dry answer.
Only 3 people believe in hell but most believe in an after life."Yes, I believe in life after death. I believe Hell does not exist but I do believe our spirits go somewhere, a type of Heaven maybe until we are ready for our next life."-Nikki"I believe the Bible. "I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in me will live, even though he dies: and whoever lives and believes in me will never die." John 11:25-26 Hell? Matthew 10:28"-Myself8. Who is God?
Most expressed belief in God as the creator. Others also said:"I believe there is more than one & they are Male & Female."-Nikki"...Mostly I think, for me, he's the still small voice that is constant and ever present that defines my life for me and brings stillness and peace."-Pam
"The Father, the Son, the Holy spirit, the creator and Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior."-Roger
9. Spanking our own children?
5 believe in spanking (not beating) 4 against spanking
"(Spanking not beating) only in extreme cases when nothing else will get a child's attention and they are headed for serious trouble."-Tom
"I think spanking confuses children. This is from my experience as a child and from what I've heard/seen from my own children. Discipline is good. I believe in consistency in discipline and finding each child's form of currency. "-Myself10. Teachers spanking our children?
3 yes, 4 no and 2 agree to the following:
"I think that since the discipline has been taken away from the teachers that the kids are more out of control and not as respectful.. I know that when I was in school and a teacher threatened to take you out in the hall for a smack, the class straighten right up though. I would be worried about whether the teacher and I would not see "eye to eye' on whether what the child did warranted a spanking.'-Traci
11. Are you a racist?
4 said no, others felt they were somewhat racist
"We all are to some degree, but that's no excuse to let it rule you."-Roger
"Only toward people who want special attention because of their race."-Christie
12. Pro-life, Pro-choice?
8 pro-life, 1 pro-choice
"Pro-life, yet again another tough one there can be so many variables here."-Nick
"Pro-life and pro-forgiveness, I am strongly opposed to abortion, but every woman who has made this choice and regretted it deserves forgiveness. "-Myself
*"Pro-life, it's not a choice that should be made by anyone other than God."-Jess
13. Sex-education at home, at school?
7 for both home and school, 2 for at home
"At home, but the reality is that sex is everywhere. Kids are going to be exposed."-Pam
"Sex ed class in high school I think would be OK but parents should start talking to their kids as soon as they know what sex is."-Traci
14. Dr. Phil, Love him, hate him, don't care?
I included this question 'cause I've come across some people that dislike him quite a bit.
4 liked him 1 hated him, 2 don't care and 2 never watched him
"He's okay when I agree with him."-Roger
"Like him most of the time although I do think that he is pretty full of himself most of the time. He does do a lot of good things for many people though."-Traci
15. Passing out condoms to teens?
2 said yes, 3 said no, 2 said this is up to parents, 1 unsure, 1 said don't care
"They started passing out condoms at school and the teen birth rate went up along with sexually transmitted disease. Passing out condoms is telling them, GO AHEAD...Parents are responsible for takin care of this...NOT the schools.."-Traci's aunt
"I'm for it, teens are going to have sex either way! This way they are less likely to spread disease and have unwanted pregnancies."-Christie
16. Prayer in School?
4 said yes, 2 said no, 3 said on a voluntary basis
"I believe that we should not take God out of the schools. This is America and if the ones that don't like it, they need to go back where they came from."-Traci
"I think prayer in school should be allowed on an optional basis. If my child went to school in another country and was forced to say prayer to an idol, I'd be disturbed. I can understand a non-believing parent feeling like that about Christian prayers. I don't think Christianity should be forced or hindered. It always has to be a free choice. That's the way God planned it."-Pam
17. Marriage between same sex?
2 yes, 7 no
"Marriage sure, if both people are in love, why not? But I don't think it is right for them to raise kids."-Christie
18. Born gay, become gay?
2 born gay, 7 become gay
"Gay is a personal choice."-Tom
"Are we born with a sexual preference? I would say no because our sexual desires don't come into play til we are adolescents. However many gay ppl would say it is not a choice. It would seem like we have no choice in who we love, so ppl who commit adultery could also say that it was not their choice, they just fell in love. So it's a sin issue and has to be dealt with between the person and God. Like all sins, forgiveness and deliverance is available to those who ask. 1 John 1:9"
19. Union, non-union?
3 union, 1 non-union, 2 neither, 1 both, and 2 unsure
"Non-union has done well for both my husband and my father."-Christie
"Both can be evil."-Nick
"Management will never change, always trying to get the most for the least. Unions will never be effective for the same reason. A person must make their capabilities valuable."-Tom
20. Absolute Truth, relativism?
4 for absolute truth, 4 for relativism, 1 other
"God's word is absolute truth. Nothing in this world (other than God's rules of nature) is black and white just various shades of gray."-Tom
"Absolute truth but who decides the truth? You or God?"-Roger
That concludes my survey. This was really time consuming! But I enjoyed it. I wonder, has anyone's opinion changed by hearing others? I know I was quite impressed upon by some answers. Thanks.
How about Gun control? Something to think about...
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